Episode #129 Choosing Your Identity

Who do you think you are? And who gets to decide?

This week on the podcast we’re talking about identity- the thoughts you think about yourself and the power they have over your experience of being the only one.

Based on what I see inside Be The First, too many of you are walking around with identities that don’t serve you. Perhaps those identities are inherited. Sometimes they are adopted. Other times they are imposed or have simply accumulated.

But the one I see most often is the identity of being the Only One.

How you think about yourself in the room isn’t just important. It’s your whole experience. Not just how you feel. But how you behave. How you perform. And your readiness to step up to the next level. It’s the difference between doing just enough to survive in this industry and being the black lawyer who thrives in this industry. Not just inside the office. But in your relationships and personal life too.

Something this important can’t be left to chance. And it doesn’t have to be. You can choose your identity and I recommend you start making that choice now.

if you’re a black lawyer, whatever your career stage, this is exactly the work we do inside the Be The First Membership. In it you will get immediate access to the Identity Course where you explore 5 core aspects of your identity and shape these into an empowering speech – The Imposter Speech – to override self doubt in the moment and give you the confidence to show up at your highest level.

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